Thursday, June 22, 2006
more than I thought possible

So the reason for this picture is....The Farm had a Pool Table...yes, that is where I learned to play pool. Remember my Profile picture where I am playing pool? Well, that picture was taken many years after I had actually learned to play pool, but it obviously was an important milestone to me because it was Daddy Joe who taught us all to play pool...well, not really all. Remember a few posts ago I mentioned that Gordon was abused by Daddy Joe? Well, all the summers we spent at The Farm, Gordon was 'sent away'. Banished. Sent to 'sleep away Camp' father decided that Gordon didn't deserve to be at "The Farm". He was a 'bad boy'. My mother did not say "No". My mother went along with it. (Oh, Please Help Me Oh Nurse....!) So Gordon did not experience these summers because he was sent away. "Abuse" comes in many forms. Physical, Emotional & Mental. Banishing Gordon from spending the summers with his siblings, his friends and cousins caused incredible hurt to him...this was emotional abuse...something I'm afraid my father was very very good at, particularly with Gordon.

Daddy & Olga (D.J.'s fourth wife) visited the farm at one point after they got married and though it was owned by a second or third family from the time when Daddy sold it...this family graciously asked them in and when they took a tour of the house he had built all those many years before, there in the pool room was the original set of pool balls not being used. With the permission of the owners Olga took one ball for me. And here it is. Old and cracking...but it is very precious to me. It is a sweet reminder of those wonderful summers and a happier time.

I truly wish I had more pictures of The Farm because I have such really wonderful memories of the summers there...and somewhere, I do...and if and when I find them---you will see them. After my parents seperated and then subsequently divorced, the few times I went to the farm were just not the same. My mother had brought all the sense of family to that home and to those summers. She was really responsible for the warm feelings those summers always had....and frankly I don't think the farm was the same for Daddy Joe either, because eventually, he sold the whole 'kit and kaboodle'...a very sad day in a way, but that part of his life was over and it surely was over for all of us.

Here is a real jump in time...Another 'publicity' photo taken at the same time (1954-55) as the previous one--same photographer--different dress.What amazes me as I look at this picture is how I was so not that person, whoever that person was...the photographers who take these pictures kind of posed you and coaxed you to do certain things...'look provocative, please'...etc.

Here is a photograph taken about 8 years later by a wonderful Actor/Director named Lee Phillips....This was for publicity too, but had a much more natural look...this was for the run of "Spoon River" at The Theatre Group at UCLA where we were seen by a New York producer and the Broadway production of this very special show began to take form.This was in April of 1963. Lee took this photo of me in Betty & Larry's back yard...This photograph looks like the "real" me....(not the manufactured pretend "Nightclub Star" person....)

The "Spoon River" experience began for me in January of that year. This was the beginning of one of the happiest most productive periods of my life. The 'run' at UCLA was a glorious experience and then we were booked to go to New York, opening on September 29th, 1963 at The Booth Theatre. This was a dream come true in every way for everyone involved. This picture appeared in The New York Times Magazine section, on Sunday Sept. 8th, 1963. That's me with the violin...see, all those lessons came in very handy when we needed a violin to illustrate one of the characters from "Spoon River" named Fiddler Jones. This photograph had actually been taken when we did the show that spring at The Theatre Group. The New York producers bought the costumes, the benches we sat on and the 'lectern' that we used. Everybody went for a subway token...! Well, not really, but no one got their regular Broadway salary because this was 'a labor of love', and it was supposed to be a limited engagement of four weeks. We played for fourteen and could have played through the spring of 1964 but the Producers had gotten what they wanted which was a reputation for putting on classy stuff! They had bigger fish to fry. So they closed us with people clamoring for us to remain open. As far as my salary was concerned, I was happy to get paid...cause I didn't have a "regular Broadway salary...". Another photograph from The Theatre Group production that appeared in that same Sunday New York Times article. After our opening, on September 29th, the New York Times critic gave us one of the greatest quotable reviews one could ask for. "Let no one say that California only takes and does not give!" This may not seem like much of anything to any of you but there was and there still is a prejudice about something that has started in California and then comes to Broadway...the critics are ready to shoot it down just because it didn't begin in New York, and that old cannot be very good if it came from "that coast". The reviews, (there were seven New York papers at that time,) were all raves. I know I posted two other pictures from the CBS Special's 'publicity' pictures, but I'm postimg another one because Hal Lynch, my fellow 'folk singer' was not in the Theatre Group production, but he was in the Broadway production and the CBS Special. This photograph was taken in the summer of 1967, though the special was not 'aired' until 1969. Go figure.

And since I am in the 'performance' is another picture that I found of our little band at the Lear playing my sturdy Triangle over on the far left...and someone is actually holding a Lear School banner. It appears we are in rehearsal clothes. This is the last of the Lear School photo's, circa 1935-36, Miami, Florida. At least I think it is the last. Time will tell, won't it...? (lol) And since this seems to be Musical Instrument is the final photo for today's post... Gene and I at the piano in Great Neck, with our Violins. Gene is seated and I am standing, and in fact, I think that is my Viola...the year is 1945-or 1946....

More will be revealed on the morrow....

IDEA: Chris, who commented today suggested that I do a Q &A because she had so many questions and I am aware that other people have had questions too...some of them I have tried to answer on their blogs or in emails, but I really like the idea of this Q&A so I think after my Birthday I will ask all of you who have questions to post them on my blog in the comments each day for a few days and then I will devote a post or two to answering these questions as best as I can...

****Reminder: The "Virtual" Birthday Party will begin at 12:01am June 27th and go till about 10:00am on June 28th...Please do join me for the fun, food and frivolity....****

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had this to say:

Naomi, I love these trips back in time. Even after your birthday passes, you must continue a weekly "Back to the Future" segment! :)

Thursday, June 22, 2006 at 3:13:00 AM PDT 

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I agree with Chatty~ I loved this post and it does make me want to read more. I am sorry Gorden has such bad memories of The Farm. Your memories are very special and so much fun for us to sneak a peek into!

Thursday, June 22, 2006 at 4:27:00 AM PDT 

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Great pictures and stories as always. I agree with Chatty .

Thursday, June 22, 2006 at 4:51:00 AM PDT 

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Emotional abuse was (and still is) one of those silent horrors of many children's childhoods. I felt bad to read about Gordon's experience.
Loved your "glamour" publicity shot. Reminded me of all the pin-ups of the 40's and 50's. Such a difference from the candids the celebs have done now a days.
How I wish I could have experienced Spoon River on first trip to Broadway wasn't until 1974...on my see Grease and I cannot remember the other one, but Ruth Warwick was in it. That first experience was an instant love for the theater and had us going back to NYC a couple times a year for other Broadway productions. Sorry to say it's now been about 8 years since I've been see "Rent."
Your postings are stirring so many memories for thanks for all the sharing.

Thursday, June 22, 2006 at 6:14:00 AM PDT 

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you are lucky so many photo's were taken of you and your family as children to be able to do this!! I wish you had more photo's of the farm too! Gorgeous home!

we are learning a lot about Naomi because of this special birthday!!
(only a few days to go!!)

Thursday, June 22, 2006 at 6:30:00 AM PDT 

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My mom and her brothers were horribly abused by my grandfather. ...and like your mom, my grandmother did nothing but allow it. Needless to say, they harbor more anger against their mother than their father, for not protecting them. So very sad. How wonderful of you to share with us!

Thursday, June 22, 2006 at 7:47:00 AM PDT 

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Great trip down memory lane as usual. I really love the shot of the old billiard ball.

Thursday, June 22, 2006 at 8:12:00 AM PDT 

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I love when you take us back in time! It is like your story has way too many interesting chapters. So yeah you have to keep doing it! :)

Love the pictures and that second publicity shot of you was stunning!

Thursday, June 22, 2006 at 8:23:00 AM PDT 

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I've just stumbled across you and I just want you to know how facinating I find your blog.

All the memories of your youth complete with wonderful photos, your lovely garden...everything!

Thanks for sharing with the world. (and me in particular)

Thursday, June 22, 2006 at 8:40:00 AM PDT 

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va-va-voom, naomi! you must have turned quite a few heads!

hope you don't mind that i ate some of the olives...;)

Thursday, June 22, 2006 at 9:38:00 AM PDT 

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Gee Naomi, you never told me that you played the violin! You look so natural at it, too! Really enjoyed the publicity shots, and I am REALLY impressed with your history.


Thursday, June 22, 2006 at 10:23:00 AM PDT 

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You look so lovely in that picture. It reminds of those old glamour and the likes of Audrey Hepburn. Classical and stunning.

I am sorry to hear that your brother, Gordon wasnt able to exp. the wonderful stuff in the farm though.

Thursday, June 22, 2006 at 10:50:00 AM PDT 

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The question/answer idea is a great one. I'll start on my list today.

Thursday, June 22, 2006 at 12:02:00 PM PDT 

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I've been away a few days and see I have loads to catch up on. Love reading these stories. I'm so sorry for Gordon. Thanks for these posts, Naomi! And although that one shot is very glamorous and pretty, I also like the more natural one. A very pretty image with a great "feel". Thanks again for sharing with us!

Thursday, June 22, 2006 at 12:12:00 PM PDT 

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I had a LOT to catch up on. I was four posts behind, but I read them and throughly enjoyed the photos.

My high speed internet got repaired this morning - a day earlier than expected - and I am rejoicing!!

The Farm photos are wonderful. The house looks so nice. That front door is impressive!
I am so sad about the way Gordon was treated by your dad. That kind of emotional damage lasts a lifetime. Your pain is evident as well, as you talk of all that happened within your complicated family. You dealt with so much at such a young age.

I like both photos- your glamour shot and your more natural promotional shot. I agree that the natural one shows more of the real YOU, but the glamour shot is HOT! What a looker!! :)

You talked of gaining and losing weight. What a battle we women face!! I try to keep my weight under control, because deep inside me there's a fat lady that has to be regularly beaten into submission.

I look forward to the Q & A posts. BTW, Tom Skerrit is an actor I really like. He has always reminded me of an uncle of mine.

Your big birthday bash is coming soon!!!!!!!

Thursday, June 22, 2006 at 12:18:00 PM PDT 

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How beautiful you are in these photos. :-). I would love to come some day and visit with you. Have lunch somewhere in downtown L.A. and let me hear in your voice tell of the past. Reading you is a pleasure. I'm not very good with words as you may see in describing what I'm trying to say, but I do hope you get it. Thank you for sharing your life with us cyber folk. I can not wait until you tell more about your amazing life.:-)
Have a great day!!!


Thursday, June 22, 2006 at 1:33:00 PM PDT 

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I love the idea of a Q & A post! That will be so interesting!!!

As usual I was spellbound reading your post! These memories are so interesting, even though some are not so pleasant, it's wonderful that you are sharing them with us.

Thursday, June 22, 2006 at 2:42:00 PM PDT 

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You look a little different in each picture, so far. It's kind of fascinating. Enjoying your ruminations very much, continuing to read. :)

Thursday, June 22, 2006 at 3:03:00 PM PDT 

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Every day I enjoy so much your great pictures and amazing stories as always! Happy moments and sad moments. And I am so sorry about Gordon.
Love all photos! Your glamour photo is gorgeous and the photo by Lee Phillips is gorgeous, too.
The Q & A posts is a great idea!
The big Birthday Party is coming soon! Hurray!

Thursday, June 22, 2006 at 3:26:00 PM PDT 

had this to say:

Oh, you are such the party animal! You look like a pinup girl in that 1 photo. I LOVE your eyes, they are just mesmerizing. Thanks for sharing with us.

Thursday, June 22, 2006 at 5:26:00 PM PDT 

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Love the glamour shot even if it isn't the real you.
I was three days old when you opened !!
I am saving all my questions for August Aunty Em.
BTW I just got my flights confirmed YEAH !! :)

Thursday, June 22, 2006 at 8:09:00 PM PDT 

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The New York/California thing is interesting, and it played out marvelously in painting around San Francisco, as I’m sure you know. The Bay Area Figurative Painters were a reaction to and largely a rejection of the abstract New York School spearheaded by some of the painter in San Francisco that were trying to catch up with East Coast abstraction. David Park reportedly drove all his abstract canvases to the dump and began painting distinctive post modern figurative work. He brought Richard Diebenkorn and many others with him, and t hey created something original and great in California. Thank God.

Thursday, June 22, 2006 at 8:17:00 PM PDT 

had this to say:

These memories would make a wonderful book. You have such stories! It's strange how the camera can freeze in time a part of us we don't recognize. Michele says hi.

Thursday, June 22, 2006 at 11:26:00 PM PDT 

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You always have so much to say-- and so interesting!

Thursday, June 22, 2006 at 11:50:00 PM PDT 

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I love all these pictures down memory lane Naomi! You are so talented in so many ways!

How nice that you got one of the pool balls to keep. That was nice of your step-mother to get that for you.

So sad Gordon didn't get to enjoy the farm.

Looking forward to the party! The Q&A thing sounds very interesting too!!

Friday, June 23, 2006 at 7:07:00 PM PDT 

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