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How eerie - my dad's birthday was August 1, he died 20 days later 9 years ago. He was 73. Here is my birthday post for him: http://daramusing.blogspot.com/2007/08/tangerine-dreams-and-marmalade-skies.html
Thanks for sharing - and thanks for the visit!
Hey Old Lady,
Your daddy surely was one handsome dude :) This tribute you wrote about him shows how much love you have for him.
Here by way of Michele,
Wow. That's a deep post. I can't imagine having a Dad that one can google. My Dad was larger than life to me but was not a national figure. He would have been 71 on August 18th, but died at his retirement party on October 9, 1998 at only 62. As all Leos are, he was a big personality and made a big difference in many peoples' lives. I'm glad we can share this, because I've been thinking about my Dad a lot too. I'm glad you had more years than I did. And do what I do. Just remember the happy times.
What a beautiful tribute to your Daddy Joe...! lovely pictures as well. Good friends of mine turn 50 and 49 today...Cheers!!
I'm glad I came over. Lovely to know more of your back ground Naomi and I hope you will fell like telling us more when you feel like it. I know how difficult it can be some timed and - so far I have found facing mu demons helpful in the long run. I had a volatile relationship with my Dad but always loving - especially in later years. I can't imagine how I would have felt if he had married again but Mum was with him till he died aged 82. Over 60 years.
Does a parent's incapacity for loving infiltrate our lives and then leave us with undeniably painful memories? It does, but if they have left us with our own capacity for loving as large as life itself, then they have left us a precious gift.
You have that capacity Naomi. Your life is full of the enormous rewards that your love has given to all you have shared it with. I am certain that Daddy Joe was the recipient of his gift.
I imagine that the kind of person your father was there might have been some complications in your relationship, but also made for a part of your very interesting life.
Your memoirs are so fascinating!
A fine tribute to your father, Naomi.
Michele sent me.
I love the fact that the last thing you ever said to your father, despite what your relationship may have been (or still is) was, "I love you, daddy."
In the end, I think that's something any father wishes to hear.
It's also something any daughter wishes to say to their father.
What a nice tribute to your dad!
Your daddy was a handsome man and I loved these pictures. What a nice tribute to him Naomi. My daddy's birthday is this Wednesday the 15th.
I know you must miss him. Hugs!
It's lovely. You are so beautiful and your words fascinate me.
I don't know that a child ever outgrows the desire to have the approval of their parents.
As you said, though, you had the underlying foundation of love -- oftentimes, some people don't even have that.
In answer to your question on my blog, the scanner I bought can scan unmounted slides, 35 mm negatives, 126 negatives. Basically the adapter sits atop the scanner platen, and in its scanning area is enough room for one strip of film. I'm not sure if it would scan your transparencies. The single thing that made this scanner workable for me is that it's skinny, at 1 3/4 high, it will fit in the space in my desk I have designated for a scanner.
It sounds like you had a complex relationship with Daddy Joe, as did I with my father. He died at 50 and our relationship was never close. I don't think he had a close relationship with anyone in his life though apart from alcohol unfortunetly.
What a beautiful tribute to your Dad. I was only 31 when I lost my father, but as you say, death ends a life but not a relationship.
Your Dad was a good looking guy, hey? How wonderful you were able to tell your Dad you loved him, just before he passed away. That must give you great comfort.
How come both you and your Dad look so familiar to me???
Hi naomi! What a beautiful post of your late dad with photos. Thank you for your honesty and openness.
I missed my dad (passed away 6 years ago) and mum (joined him 18 months later) terribly.
Take care and God bless you.
I got teary...such a great post...and the pics...oh my!!!
A big hub for you today all the way from New York City!!1
Lots of love!!!
I received your second comment and posted a little reply to it. Thank you. I thought I recognized you.
You know, I sometimes still talk to my Dad. They never really leave us.
What an interesting and lovely post! Thank you for sharing this with us!
I lost my dad over 20 years ago & I still regret some of the unresolved issues.
And thanks for coming by to visit me!
What a wonderful post my dear friend I've enjoyed this very much.
Lovely post. You were lucky to have him.
Naomi, very nice post. Is it not amazing, just how much our parents, and enviroment, stays with us all of our lives. Karen and I share a Mom, and have different fathers.And it does amaze me, just how much both of them still touch us ever day. Memories:) Pat from NY.
great post and great memories.. it's hard to even imagine what we'd be like without our memories.
..but we never really stop missing them.
Hope you had a lovely concert and saw shooting stars.
Lovely tribute to you Dad, Naomi! Love all photos, as well. Thanks for sharing your lovely memories. Many hugs my dear!
Lovely tribute to you Dad, Naomi! Love all photos, as well. Thanks for sharing your lovely memories. Many hugs my dear!
I love this post Naomi. It reminds me of how things were between me and my dad. It was a strained, akward relationship and at one point didn't speak for many years. He even missed my wedding. We finally got together and I got a few more years with him before he died 4 years ago. Thank goodness for that.
Thank you for sharing your thoughts about your "Daddy Joe". He was a very handsome man, and even though you say you had difficulties in your relationship at times, I can hear in your words how much you still love him. My own dad wasn't a famous figure, he wasn't well travelled, or even well educated, but he was a lovely dad. He has been gone since 1977, and he lived to 95 years old. And I still miss him!!!
On another topic, your "Lucky Star" from Canada is on it's way!
relationships with parents can be so hard. even when they are gone, the influence they exerted lives on in their families. sometimes good, sometimes not so good.
did you notice how much your father resembles Robert DeNiro?
Wonderful post about Daddy Joe, Naomi. I always find your life so fascinating. I'm sure he was a wonderful man!!
I'm glad you told him you loved him during your last conversation too. I can understand the comfort that brings!
There was good and bad, but you seem to have managed to hold on to the good and learn to cherish it. I suppose some of the bad is worked out again and again in the primal room along with many other deeply imbedded negative feelings. It is too bad that once bad emotions are let out and dealt with they don't just melt away for good. The good news is we have tools to cope as best we can and be thankful for all the good things in our lives.
When troubles cloud my day, I reach for a chocolate truffle! :-) It soothes things temporarily.
Jason and I ate at two really nice bistro-style restaurants that he had never tried. Both are located in South Pasadena:
1. Mike & Anne's
The food at these places is reasonably priced and very, very delicious. The service was excellent at both places as well, in addition, also.
That was a very touching post adn I can tell how difficult it was for you to write it. I'm not sure how, but I can. I think maybe because I have not always had an easy relationship with one of my parents.
From remembering various other snippets from previous posts he certainly seemed to be a larger than life character! That photo you took of him is wonderful. All those things you describe are there in his eyes.
I think this is a beautiful post, because it's so honest. I can feel your pain, but there's also a lot of love in what you write also.
PS: I noticed someone else mentioned how much your Dad looks like DeNiro - that's the first impression I had also!
Very sweet post about your dad. I'm impressed that despite any differences it's obvious how much you care about the man. Very sweet, Naomi. Great photos.
Thanks so much for sharing such precious parts of yourself with us...I very much enjoyed reading this..and the photos...Daddy Joe was a handsome fellow for sure and was surely a very interesting person to say the least.
What a touching post.
I love how you write. I can hear you talking.
I know from an email or two of yours that it was a tense kind of relationship that you shared with your father. Although it must be painful to delve into that father-daughter relationship, you have done so. Thank you for sharing a personal piece of your heritage with us.
No matter our age, the remnants of our parental relationships are always with us, I think. Glad you have good times with him you can treasure, the rest just "is." I'm not sure what is more difficult, having someone in your life and wanting more, or not having them at all -- guess the experiences are simply different. What a lovely memory that your last words to him were, "I love you."
Naomi, that line about people controlling even in death - that could be said about my mom - and it is so true. But you know, that only happens if we LET it! You dad looks like a very strong-willed man (as was my mom). Had mine lived, she would be 101 this year.
He was a very handsome man in his prime as evidenced in the poolside photo. The relationships between parents and children are uniquely treacherous. There are so many ways a parent can scar a child and the child has to metamorphasize the experiences and injuries over a lifetime, making sense of them, interpreting and reinterpreting events from the perspective of a child, a young adult and later with much more experience and perhaps compassion, as an older adult, finally understanding how human parents really are.
Your father was very handsome.
Its wonderful that you loved him, despite an obviously complicated relationship.
Thanks for sharing.
Made me tear up, but that's not hard to do because I have been writing my own post about the wake of death, my dad's and my brothers. Reading this has helped me formulate further the complication in parental/child relationships, more so than siblings, because they have so much power over you and power to effect you.
It must be in the air. I see that Dara has also written a post about her dad. I wonder if the signs of summer ending make us all feel a little nostalgic and melancholy.
Your dad reminds me of Robert Nero.
What a heartfelt post and one that I can so relate to. The last words that I spoke to my father were "I love you" and considering that I said that to him maybe 10 times in my life .... it was a very big deal and something that I am grateful for.
I am so glad that I came by for this one.
Have a good day.
My favorite picture of those is the one of both of you together, at the bottom.
He looks like he'd have the same personality as my dad, full of piss & vinegar! But also full of love.
In your writing, it comes thru loud & clear that you are daddy's girl. There's a sense of adornment there.
Very poignant post. His face certainly had lots of character. And I felt your emotions coming through the words. My mom would have turned 80 years old tomorrow...she's been gone 2 years this past Feb. I know what you're saying here....and for some reason, I passed on blogging about my mom's birthday this year. Love has many different paths, doesn't it?
Well... as one who had NO relationship with my father (past the age of 5) and a "rough at best" relationship with my mother... I certainly CAN understand where you're coming from - and I think it's awesome that you have SOME "love memories" with him! Surely that makes it all just a little bit easier.
You know, Naomi, about the struggles I have with my dad. I don't know why it has to be so hard, but it just seems that it is for so very many of us. I'm so glad you have these photos....I have none of my dad. And the sad thing is, I don't even know if i'd want them anyhow. So strange the connection/lack of is between a parent and child. Thank you for sharing this.
Wow... he looks like Robert DeNiro!!
Loved reading this, especially since I did a "daddy" post yesterday (or reran one, anyway). These relationships are indeed complex, and do control us even from the grave.
You look gorgeous in those photos!
I love this post.
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