Congratulations on successfully discarding smoking from your life. I think entering into a 1:1 counseling relationship can be one of the most difficult decisions, but rewarding actions a person can take. Clearly you found the choice you made to be highly signifcant in your life and am glad for you it was so.
Congratulations on this milestone Naomi! You certainly deserve a big pat on the back!! The Primal Institute sounds like a great cause and I'm sure it's helped so many. I could use a few sessions in your sound proof room, especially during high levels of stress!! :)
Happy Anniversary for both reasons Naomi. This was a very touching and readable story in all its detail and you have all the reason to be happy and proud - I'm so glad for you. As my wife always say: 'It works if you work it, so work it, your worth it'. Your the best proof of that.
Like you, I was a very heavy smoker for 37 years. Quitting was one of the hardest things I have ever done in my whole life and one of the most life changing as well. I found a different person emerge from that smoke filled cocoon. I found real confidence instead of an induced one and I found peace:)
When I was quitting I used a support group on line and it was such a help. Just knowing you weren't alone in this horrible struggle. Congratulations on your success! The sky is the limit and up and away we go.............
Naomi, thank you for sharing your story with the rest of us. Have personally been fighting the war of the mind and the need of smoke. is not something that am winning. Oh and let me not forget food. Can not imagine the experience,where one can think of one's self and the repair that needs to been done, and have the help and support for years from others who would truly understand. Am so glad that you were able to quit, and you are here to share your talents, and heart will the rest of us. Pat from NY.
Wonderful post Naomi and I applaud you and congratulate you for not smoking in all those years AND for giving yourself such a gift!
Congratualtions on two very fins acheivements. the smoking alone is a big deal, but finding a way to find yourself, live with yourself, those are bigger, to me.
Those are absolutely great milestones to celebrate. I applaud you Naomi. I have never smoked in my life nor did I ever even TRY a cigarette when growing up. I grew up in a house with heavy smokers. My mom is showing signs of emphysema nad my dad died from it. You did a great thing! And as for your 'primal' therapy, I'm coming to your house for some therapy! LOL.
Congratulations to you on these milestones!
This was a beautiful post, my dear, thanks for sharing more of your memories and for the beautiful message of optimism and for making me stop to smell the flowers.
Good for your for making the decision to do something very good for yourself!
What an interesting post to read! I'm old enough to remember a lot about the Primal Scream therapy. It was not anything I ever tried - but, always thought it was fascinating. Thank you for giving me the insight into it. And, I am so glad that it was something and is something that helps you be You!
Congrats on the not smoking too. I feel so much better - it will be 3 years in April for me...(after too damn many of smoking!!)
Two amazing milestones indeed! Congratulations, these are great things worth celebrating!!
I quit smoking in 1978, when I was 38, having started when I was 15. It was and remains now the best thing I have ever done for myself!
Too bad I didn't know much about Primal Scream therapy when I quit. I did scream a lot - but probably not the right way....LOL
Whooo hooo!! what awesome things to be proud of...the gift of yourself and the gift of being able to be yourself alot longer by quitting smoking!! I can only empathize to what that therapy must be like...but as you said, it was difficult but the best thing u could have done for yourself, then BRAVO! I can however, totally sympathize and understand what it is to quite smoking. I certainly smoked very heavily for over 20 yrs and finally quit cold turkey 3.5 yrs ago..and don't go a day without being proud of that fact.
Thanks so much for sharing such a deep part of you in this post Naomi. I'm sure many of us are very touched as I am that u did.
Congratulations, Naomi! What a wonderful and miraculous experience! The timing was perfect. Although I am not a smoker and never have been, I know it's a hard habit to break. You've come a long way, baby! ;)
I am truly touched! I admire the courage you have been through just to achieve your goal.
HUG! HUG! HUG!
Oh wow. I have been taught a lot in this post Naomi. I never quite knew what Primal Scream was or Primal Therapy but I had heard of them (there is a 90's British band called Primal Scream!)
I have never smoked in my life but I live with a smoker (not a heavy one which is just as well), so I congratulate you on your 37 years of being smoke free.
Congrats, Naomi! I've never been a smoker but was around smokers all my life. Now I choose not to be.
Big congrats, Naomi. :)
I think that's wonderful.
And thank you for sharing this.
Hi Naomi! Oh goody, lots of things for me to read. I just popped in to let you know you've been tagged! Come over to see what it's all about!
what a wonderful post! congratulations to you.
Congratulations on this milestone and on your success, dear Naomi! I am so happy for you! I remember well when I read your post called "Smoking" and I also remember that I sent that post to my daughter!
I have never smoked in my life, but believe me, when I was a teenager I tryed to smoke, but fortunately I hated the taste and I choked with the smoke. Your story is a great example! Thank you so much for sharing your story with us.
Many hugs my dear!
Wonderful wonderful good stuff. Happy anniversary! You've been smoke free for as long as I've been alive! That's amazing and you are an inspiration. Once you decide to do something, you just do it! I didn't do this primal therapy of course, but having gone through as many depressions as I have and being mostly left to my own devices, I had to face me, as I was many many times. I had the I Ching and the Medicine Cards to guide me through it, but that's about it. And every time, I become closer to "just me" minus another mask. Minus another protective wall. Or sometimes PLUS another protective wall because I'm that much more vulnerable inside. I don't know. Something like that. I'm glad you posted this. Thanks Naomi.
4 packs a day! Your quitting like that must have really been a shock to your system. Congratulations on your milestone and your fortitude.
... it was wonderful, reading this.
What a wonderful story and very encouraging to read. The first time I ever went to a psychic, probably the best one I ever went to also, she said I had a lot of anger in me that I wasn't facing. I still have not accessed it but she suggested screaming and hitting a pillow as a way of getting it out. I have tried counseling twice but cannot say that either helped me, probably not intensive enough or perhaps not the right kind of approach. You can't ask for more from any program than to access yourself, to not fool yourself and to truly know who you are. Only then can anyone deal with the issues that we often do submerge, as I have my anger still. Guess I should go get a pillow and wait until the contractors leave from building the shop extension out by the barns today to let it all out :)
Happy anniversary~ I'm glad you're here!
Instead of Happy Anniversary, I'll wish you Happy Birthday, because I think this was a time of rebirth for you!
Cheers to many more years of happiness and discovery!
I've done a post about Betty and Larry and you on my blogs! :D
(Boy, I hope Betty doesn't hunt me down and kick my butt...!)
What a very absorbing post Naomi. At first I thought it was a celebration of 37 years of non- smoking which is salutory in itself but the discovery of the you must have been a long difficult road but ultimately life enhancing and I salute you for following it through.
You have been smoke free longer than I have. I had a very expensive week at a health farm in 1977 and thought I mustn't waste the money by smoking and haven't since. But the Primal Scream programme sounds much more interesting and I hope you will tell us more eventually. And by the way very well done!
How brave of you, not only to succeed, but to write about it.
My sweet darling Naomi - one of the most interesting and daring women I know - what a fabulous story - you are one of our enduring storytellers. We met here when I quit smoking and how wonderful to touch your journey to intimately. Heart to heart.
Huge kudos to you, Naomi, on both of your milestones.
I think you have proved the saying correct....When the student is ready, the teacher appears. And even more meaningful is that you listened.
I remember reading about that therapy, it's very interesting, it seems to go back to the very basics of what ails you instead of a little bit of talk therapy and a BUNCH of prescriptions, like they do now. And you put down the cigarette BEFORE the therapy. That is something.
Michele bade me come back, Naomi. We are both glad that you quit smoking (and glad that I did, too)!
Congratz for quiting smoking. It's one big milestone!
Michele sent me here. :)
Two phrases jumped out at me from this post:
1)To have the freedom and support to have your feelings. This is probably the greatest thing someone can do for someone else adn I am glad that you found a process and people where you had this. The last year or so I have become quite tired of people telling me how I should feel about something under the guise of listening to me. Imposing their view of how I should react or feel often made things worse and felt I wasn't be listened to or that I was wrong for feeling the way I did in some way. What a gift when someone does not impose on your pain.
2) I am the only one who lives inside me. How true! Just becasue something might be trivial for one person doesn't mean that it wouldn't be devastating for another . Pain is poersonal and yet in society we try to impose a standard of how much things should hurt adn how someone should react. I remember when Bob was very ill people brushed it aside and yet I was very upset adn couldn't show it becasue of the way those around me treated it and even said 'he is just a cat'. Their reaction invalidated my pain and yet I felt it. Even with my recent divorce, some people can not see why I am not dancing in the streets.
A wonderful post Naomi, and spot on. So many people I think, miss this.
You know how meaningful your stop-smoking anniversary is to me. Congratulations on staying strong for so many years!
And I think we've talked about primal therapy before...I wish I had done it at that time, too. A friend of mine lived downstairs from a PT studio, and you can imagine what THAT was like! LOL
Love your LA photos, Naomi...
Congratulations on the milestones both of them :) I for one am very glad you put that last cigerette down.
What a wonderful post!
BIG congrats on both huge milestones/anniversaries!!
When you wrote about your buddy seeing all of you (not in the naked body sense), I thought that showing your inner self is so much BEYOND the naked body sense. I am glad you've been able to reveal yourself to your buddy, and also to heal yourself again and again through primal therapy.
Quitting smoking as you did is a HUMUNGOUS thing!
I wish more people could & would give up smoking.
Amongst this moving post on courage,personal strength, finding yourself, and trust, the following hit me square between my green eyes:
"This is the greatest gift that anyone can give another person. The freedom and support to have their feelings, whatever they might be." -----That is so true, rarer and more precious than any gem! To connect and trust someone implicity, open yourselves wide and feel safe and accepted doing so is an incredible bond like no other in this world.
Good for you to feel confident enough to congratulate yourself!
You've come a long way and I wish you the best in continuing your journey. Happy Anniversaries, Naomi!
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